Keeping the Romance Alive by blogger Toni
The most trying part of any serious relationship is keeping the romance alive. If romance is left hanging in the balance, it can essentially be the breaking point of the relationship. So what makes this aspect of love so difficult? Simply put, romance means something different to each one of us.
Not all women are dying for a knight in shining armor to come along and rescue them on a white horse. They don’t yearn for fairytale endings. At that same time however, there are a countless number of women who want exactly that! Neither one is wrong. No one side is better than the other; it just is the way it is. Like I always say, the heart wants what it wants.
Personally, I am a hopeless romantic. I wouldn’t exactly say I’m looking to live inside a fairytale, but I love love. I mean, I REALLY love love.
And what I’ve found throughout my few serious relationships, as well as the many not-so-serious ones, is that romance hinges on the act of showing appreciation for your partner in intimate ways that cater specifically to exactly what it is that their heart wants.
It starts with knowing your partner on a deep level. There’s a theory that at the beginning of a relationship, it’s all about the passionate love. There’s no trouble in finding romance in this stage. Sometimes there’s even too much of it! This is also more commonly referred to as “the honeymoon phase.” But once that goes away, if the relationship survives, compassionate love takes its place. This is the type of love from which you grow old together; it’s the love that lasts.
This is where it is vital to keep the romance alive. More often than not, you will find that at this point in your relationship, you know your partner better than you even know yourself! Use this to your advantage.
My first true love was a relationship that lasted three years. As we inched closer to the 2 and a half-year point however, things began to slow down. We were running out of things to talk about and we had become far too comfortable with each other. Don’t get me wrong, we were still each other’s best friends and we had been through so much together, so by no means were we ready to give up… but we knew our peak had passed. We had many conversations about what to do. We felt at a loss. We didn’t know how to reignite our flame that had slowly fizzled out.
It took something incredibly extravagant to get our flame roaring again. But that doesn’t always have to be the answer. Sometimes the little things do far more for your partner than the big extravagant things ever could.
Our lives move at such a fast pace that we sometimes forget to make showing our appreciation for our partners a priority. It’s important that we slow down, take a step back, and make sure that they know just how much we love them. Keep your partner at the forefront of your mind and spend the time to shower them with the love and appreciation they deserve. Romance is making sure you don’t take your partner for granted.
Whether it something as big as surprising them with tickets to a home game of their favorite sports team or something as simple as rubbing their shoulders as you listen to them talk about their day, creating romance is vital to the survival of your relationship and every little bit counts.
Love cannot exist without romance, but don’t make it more complicated than it has to be! All it takes is knowing your partner’s wants and needs and simply making an effort to fulfill those wants and needs in the best way that you know how. It really is the thought that counts. If you need to amp up the romance in your relationship, start there. Love is a beautiful thing, so let it be beautiful.
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