Christmas season is one of the most amazing time for dating because the scenery is already set up for romance, coziness and creating unforgettable dates.
Create a magical moment and visit your local town Christmas Tree- at this time of the year, the tree is full of lights, provides a wintery landscape, and the music in the air produces romantic moments.
The Christmas tree is one of my most favorite memories from childhood and this is why my heart always melts and brings me feelings of something familiar, warm, and beautiful. As a child, my brother and I always sat under the tree, told each other stories, made wishes, and dreamed about our next adventure. Sitting under the tree next to a cozy fireplace can take one back to the childhood days when dreaming/wishing was a common past time and sometimes those wishes did come true.
The Christmas tree will set you in an amazing mood for your date night out and you will be able to share unforgettable moments…
Nothing is better than creating great laughs and supporting a bond between each other while ice skating. Not only you can show your date that you have great artistic skills but you can hold on tight to each other.
I love this date night idea because I also love to see if my date is not afraid to make a fool out of yourself and is game for anything. Like in life, even if you are not sure what you are doing, it is important to try new things out and laugh, when things do not work out. Almost everyone who ice skates falls – so do not lose hope.
And after the event, don’t forget your hot cocoa to enhance the experience.
A cozy night under one blanket while watching your favorite Christmas movie is the ideal magical pill for any relationship.
Everyone has just that special movie that they watch every Christmas, so why not to watch it with someone you can share something personal about you.
Some ideas for classic Christmas movies include:
– Home Alone
– The Grinch
– Love Actually
– National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation
– A Charlie Brown Christmas
And instead of popcorn, try some hot apple cider with cinnamon!
Do you feel like you need something little more classical and bring more of Christmas spirit into your date night out?
I still remember my first visits to the opera houses and was amazed by breathtaking stories, the romantic music, spirit and of course, the atmosphere of love in the air.
This timeless holiday tradition creates an unforgettable experience for your night out.
If you are trying to make sure that you choose the right partner to be with, plan one unexpected date night out. On this special night out, do something that touches the hearts of others. Buy a homeless person a Christmas dinner or pay for someone’s grocery or better still, visit some people in nursing homes and provide them with a small gift. This act alone will make you stand on top of the world.
When I was young, I helped out at the kitchen for homeless people and it was great joy to see them eat something hot and decent. This experience always reminds me how fortunate I was growing up as a kid and today, I encourage everyone to give a little of yourself to others.
This type of charity when done from your heart, will make anyone fall in love with you- try it!
Create togetherness by spending time in the kitchen. Christmas is the time to make your favorite recipes and get your date to help you out in the kitchen.
Find great Gingerbread cookies recipes here.
Christmas is the time to spice up your date night out!
We are surrounded by the notion we are here temporarily, for a moment and must make the most of it.
Love can move mountains, it can stop wars, it can bring life into the world.
Yet, many of us it’s hard to imagine what life could be like if we find true love and ultimately happiness. We are constantly searching for apps, sites, events, even at work to find that one true partner. We need to stop blaming our parents, friends for not setting up us with the right guy or past relationships. We never stop to look at one person that is right in front us ourselves.
My company Luv Talk has spent the last year building our technology to improve our web platform and now our app to help women and men to find expert advice on all things love. The web platform and the app match you with a matchmaker or dating expert to help you gain the skills and knowledge to improve your relationships.
I am proud of my team of developers, designers, and interns who have all dedicated time and skills to have us create the 1st platform for experts to improve love lives of all types of people. I am constantly asked where did this idea come from. While I have stated it was a bad breakup that spawned this idea that is not the complete truth. The relationship was abusive with the guy being both emotional, verbally, and physically abusive insulting my intelligence, drive to be in tech field, and sent me into a deep depression.
While, the world is being forced to examine treatment of women due to the current sex scandals in the media we often forget how difficult it might be to come forward. I have waited to bring light to this situation after months of therapy and dedicating time, money, and my soul into this new business. In a way a company became a way to focus my energy and turn a dark pain into something beautiful to help others find true love and happiness.
Hopefully, this story can help other women come forward not just in telling a story, but to move past the pain. I’m incredibly grateful to every person I have met on this journey and those that have made it possible for me to rebuild. Since I am a woman that loves happy endings and yes even a few Nicholas sparks movies.
I did find love afterall.
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Halloween is a time for singles as well as those that are a couple. Grab your guy and showcase your sexy side this Halloween. It’s a great time to have a first date or becoming closer as a couple. No matter what stage your relationship is here are some great ideas that can allow you a sexy fun Halloween!
Here are 5 tips to make your Halloween sexier than ever!
Send him a few sexy tasteful costumes for his eyes only. He will appreciate being open with something just for him and you will feel his affection. He can send you his costume as well. Equal sexy text opportunity!
Grab your catwoman costume to and let him grab Batman there is nothing cuter or sexier than a couple dressing up together.
Not planning on going on then stay in and cuddle watching old classic horror films, Friday the 13th, Dracula, Nightmare on Elm Street, and the classic Psycho. Make some treats that are inspired your film selection to complete this date night in.
Grab your guy and go visit a farm or local pumpkin patch. This classic activity can help you slow down the stress of everyday city life and bring back good old fashion FUN!
Veronica Yanhs is on a mission to empower women to unapologetically live their lives through kink and BDSM.To her, kink and BDSM are vessels that take people on a transformative journey to become their most confident, empowered and enlightened self. We sat down with her to answer questions on how to enter the Kink lifestyle.
1. How did you get into the BDSM lifestyle?
It was something that I’ve always felt a calling to do (explore BDSM), but couldn’t do so until I was 23. I knew I was kinky since I was 4, and have both consciously and subconsciously desired to explore it. It wasn’t until 2013 shortly after my 23rd birthday did I get into the lifestyle. I joined this kinky social website called FetLife and went to my first Munch where I met fellow kinksters in a “normal” setting. I met some of my very best friends there.
San Francisco the city by the ocean, by the bay, and the city of love. San Francisco is one of the most romantic cities in the country. While many of us view it as a tech hub where mega tech startups launch and take over the world. It is a city with perfect ocean views, great restaurants, and wonderful history. One of our experts is from San Francisco Lucie Ebnerova of Luvidya.
Luvidya Inc was created by two friends who were frustrated with modern online dating and decided to make it more fun and have people connect offline and create more meaningful relationships that last. It brought the male and female point of view to the table to create a dating system that makes you feel connected in real life and disconnected from your phone. The company brings offline dating to the digital age.
We had the great pleasure to interview Lucie of Luvidya.
Question 1: What are some great ideas for a first date?
Today, I actually see the second dates more interesting because people meet online a lot and they want to get to know each other – coffee shop or ice cream shop will do the magic. If you met someone randomly at party or through friends you already had a chance to know each other, so the first date can be more creative. However, whatever you choose, make sure you feel comfortable and you two can talk 🙂
Question 2: How can we cope with heartbreak?
Allow yourself to cry and get the sadness out of your body. Focus on what is important – YOU! Find new hobbies, tell friends to take you out, exercise, start slowly enjoying life.
Question 3. What are great romantic date ideas?
Everyone has a different vision of what is romantic. But some fun ideas: long walks, picnic, dinners, horseback riding, jazz club, fireplace, paddle boarding, car drive.
Question 4. How do you handle cohabitation and splitting up household chores?
Communication!! Always communicate what you expect and what he/she is expecting. It might not be a big deal now but in few years.
Question 5. How do you deal with betrayal?
Betrayal can have many faces from low to high I’m guessing this is the question about the high, such as you can’t trust him/her anymore. You need to ask yourself what is there for me if I stay?
Question 6. What is Love?
Taking care of each other, respect each other and be very honest with yourself.
Question 7. How do you keep love alive?
You work for it! You are not afraid to give and not afraid to receive. You keep balance and enjoy every minute of it.
We know that day, the day we break and “accidentally” text our ex because we’re feeling lonely or sad. We don’t think it through; we just want to be in touch. There’s a void we’re trying to fill. And then we wait… and wait… the anxiety increases and we consistently check our phones because we swear it buzzed. Then the sinking feeling comes and we’re sad and angry as we “know” we shouldn’t have texted. In enters feelings of being rejected. We start to wonder, “Maybe they didn’t get it?”, “Are they with someone else?”, and “Did they ever really care?”
Okay, so we committed the cardinal sin of “texting the ex”, now what? The key is to create a plan for the next time. Fact: Often times the urge to be in touch with your ex doesn’t stem from missing them but comes from other contributing factors. First, consider what was going on internally and emotionally in the moments or hours before you texted.
Here is a list of possibilities contributing or causing “missing” feelings. Instead of missing our ex, could we possibly be missing:
These categories are extremely important to identify for coping and relapse prevention. The great news, if it’s numbers 1 through 9 we’re in luck! These have less to do directly with our ex and more to do with a need we’re yearning for or fearing. If we had someone else there to fill this void, it probably would not feel so bad. So, fill this void in healthy ways other than texting the ex. Find ways to supplement the things we are missing. It may not be a perfect substitution but it will decrease our pain and increase our coping. If we’re missing physical touch, get a massage or hug a friend. This releases Oxytocin and reduces stress. Spend time with someone that shares similar values or hobbies, join a new club or group, remind ourselves that everyone faces being alone at some point. If at the end of your day you used to talk to your ex, for example, pick a friend to fill that void for the time being. Again, it’s not a perfect substitute but it does help.
Now, if we are feeling #10 – missing that indescribable special connection, unfortunately, this is part of the loss that we need to keep grieving. There is no rule of thumb for how long this will take. Be extremely careful about turning to the ex to make this part feel better because that relationship and connection has evolved and they can’t offer us what they once could. So grieve and cry for as long as you need to. Crying has many physiological benefits for your body and releases stress hormones.
We all have vulnerable, open and hard moments. Learning what you’re missing, other than the ex can keep you in control and invite self-refection and healthy coping.
“I’m looking for another unsuccessful relationship”, said no one ever. We all plan on finding a healthier more successful relationship the next time around. No one purposely tries to repeat the same mistakes. So how do we know as we’re falling in “like” with someone that we are picking better and wiser?
Think of the courting process as a condensed sample of what the longer term relationship will look like. It’s important to examine if our needs are getting met early on in the relationship. If, after clearly and nicely communicating your needs, allowing a window for adjustment/work, your partner isn’t able to meet your needs it is crucial to avoid hoping, expecting, or seeing the “potential” in our partner as we wish for them to change.
Rule number 1: Only date the person for who they are and as they are as they are at this exact moment. There is great risk when we date someone for their potential as opposed to who they are at this current time because they may never reach their “potential”. While communication plays a large role, if your potential partner cannot adjust after a conversation or two then it may be time to move on.
Rule number 2: The secret is: Consistency and Reliability. These are the two most important factors when getting to know someone as well as throughout the relationship. How do I know if someone is reliable or consistent? Early on we have to access small pieces of information. Do they call when they say they will call? Do they actually schedule dates and follow through on them? Do they show up to scheduled outings when they say they will or notify you in a timely manner if they’re running late? Are they attentive when you’re stressed or anxious? Do they take interest in what you converse about? These beginning and small moments are indicators about whether you partner is reliable, consistent and perhaps trustworthy.
Naturally, there are other factors that play into whether we are “picking right” or dating smarter. But, these foundational rules are a solid and dependable place to start. If you’re wanting to learn more about yourself and how to date smarter beyond these rules, speaking with a counselor may be a worthwhile avenue for self-exploration.
What do you notice about yourself during the Holiday season?
Do you ever feel alone?
This time of year our feelings are amplified and on high alert. It can be easy to notice what we do not have in place of what we do have. Is there an absence in your life?
When it comes to the world of love, a sense of aloneness can be chilling. The media, social media, and Christmas cards represent that humans are collectively more joyful and loved this time of year. For you is this true or is this a false representation of what folks are really feeling? There is also a reality for many of us that we have not found our special someone or our relationship is not functioning at its best.
If you are feeling a sense of aloneness (in a relationship or singlehood) here are some tips to enrich your holiday experience.
Try these four exercises in the world and see what happens in your life. Let me know how it goes. If you know of someone feeling alone forward this article to them it may change their season.
Speaking from the heart,
Molly Hillig Rodriguez
Whatever approach or approaches you take to survive a holiday break, be thankful that a new year and new beginning is right around the corner.
Deitra Laniece has been mentoring millennials to have finical freedom with her company Money Noggin. Here are tips on talking money with your romantic partner.
He’s your dream guy. Tall, Dark, and Fine.
You had a few amazing dates where he showered you with flowers, was a complete gentleman, but something is off.
Not sure what it is but you blow it off anyway.
After a few months dating you realize what’s been nagging you. You noticed some red flags.
He’s hung up on phone calls from what sounds like bill collectors and now he just wants stay in and watch TV every weekend.
You can see a future with him but can he even afford to buy a ring, if it comes to that point?
Finance is the last conversation that happens when you are madly in love, but it’s one of the biggest causes for divorce.
So let’s take a little close look at when to introduce the finance conversation into the relationship.
Before Talking Look for Signs of Financial Troubles
When you first start dating, you are just feeling out if he’s a match and maybe if he makes you smile a lot.
In this time frame, just notice how he acts when it comes to money.
Does he flash his money everywhere? Does he make negative side remarks when it comes to the restaurant tab? Maybe you notice he uses his credit card quite a bit.
All of these might be signs for you, but continue to enjoy your time and just keep them in mind if the relationship gets serious later on.
Don’t fret yet, just enjoy the attention and the conversation, but take note.
Gradually Bring Up Future Financial Goals
After a few dates, you start getting to know each other more.
Mention your future financial goals, like eventually owning your own home, paying for college in cash, or saving for a dream vacation.
When you mention these, see how he reacts. Does he seem scared or intimidated? Does he get excited with you?
These will help you get a good idea if he values the same things financially as you do.
Which is super important if you can see a future with him.
Now, do not talk about your dream of having a $20k wedding right off the bat.
That will scare a majority of guys even if they are financially secure.
Bring up wedding goals later on in the relationship, when you’re talking about more serious stuff like engagement.
After Getting Serious, Then Get Serious about Where Each of You Stand Financially
By this time, you’ve talked about moving in together or possibly getting engaged.
This is prime time to get into the nitty gritty of finances.
When you are getting as serious as living together or marriage, it’s time to understand exactly where each other stands.
Because whatever debt is brought into this relationship now, will affect you if you decide to purchase large ticket items together in the future, like a house, car, or renting an apartment.
Keep your debts prior to the marriage separate and keep focused on paying those debts off before getting any new debt together.
If your engaged, this is time frame you can sit down go over your finances and plan a wedding budget that will reflect both of your financial goals.
If one person is struggling financially, consider a financial coach to help you build a plan that will get you both on board towards building a financially secure future together.
Just like if your morals and ethics don’t match, your relationship will not work, so will your financial values.
If you value nice things, but your future spouse is super thrifty, you will for sure hit some major road blocks in your relationship.
These issues need to be ironed out with a financial coach before the relationship gets further along.
So bring up the financial conversation little by little. By the time you get serious, the money talk will be much easier to handle.
And if he’s not a financial match, at least you saved yourself from some potential future money headaches.