6 Amazing Date Nights Out During Holidays by Dating Coach Lucie from Luvidya


Christmas season is one of the most amazing time for dating because the scenery is already set up for romance, coziness and creating unforgettable dates.


To help you plan some unforgettable dates during holidays, here are ideas for Amazing Date Nights Out During Holidays:

1. Visit the Local Christmas Tree

Create a magical moment and visit your local town Christmas Tree- at this time of the year, the tree is full of lights, provides a wintery landscape, and the music in the air produces romantic moments.

The Christmas tree is one of my most favorite memories from childhood and this is why my heart always melts and brings me feelings of something familiar, warm, and beautiful. As a child, my brother and I always sat under the tree, told each other stories, made wishes, and dreamed about our next adventure. Sitting under the tree next to a cozy fireplace can take one back to the childhood days when dreaming/wishing was a common past time and sometimes those wishes did come true.

The Christmas tree will set you in an amazing mood for your date night out and you will be able to share unforgettable moments…

2. Ice Skating

Nothing is better than creating great laughs and supporting a bond between each other while ice skating. Not only you can show your date that you have great artistic skills but you can hold on tight to each other.

I love this date night idea because I also love to see if my date is not afraid to make a fool out of yourself and is game for anything. Like in life, even if you are not sure what you are doing, it is important to try new things out and laugh, when things do not work out. Almost everyone who ice skates falls – so do not lose hope.

And after the event, don’t forget your hot cocoa to enhance the experience.

3.Watch your Favorite Christmas Movies Together

A cozy night under one blanket while watching your favorite Christmas movie is the ideal magical pill for any relationship.

Everyone has just that special movie that they watch every Christmas, so why not to watch it with someone you can share something personal about you.

Some ideas for classic Christmas movies include:
– Home Alone
– The Grinch
– Love Actually
– National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation
– A Charlie Brown Christmas

And instead of popcorn, try some hot apple cider with cinnamon!

4. Nutcracker or Christmas Carol

Do you feel like you need something little more classical and bring more of Christmas spirit into your date night out?

I still remember my first visits to the opera houses and was amazed by breathtaking stories, the romantic music, spirit and of course, the atmosphere of love in the air.

This timeless holiday tradition creates an unforgettable experience for your night out.

5. Volunteer Together for a Good Cause

If you are trying to make sure that you choose the right partner to be with, plan one unexpected date night out. On this special night out, do something that touches the hearts of others. Buy a homeless person a Christmas dinner or pay for someone’s grocery or better still, visit some people in nursing homes and provide them with a small gift. This act alone will make you stand on top of the world.

When I was young, I helped out at the kitchen for homeless people and it was great joy to see them eat something hot and decent. This experience always reminds me how fortunate I was growing up as a kid and today, I encourage everyone to give a little of yourself to others.

This type of charity when done from your heart, will make anyone fall in love with you- try it!

6. Baking Cookies

Create togetherness by spending time in the kitchen. Christmas is the time to make your favorite recipes and get your date to help you out in the kitchen.
Find great Gingerbread cookies recipes here.

Christmas is the time to spice up your date night out!



7 ways to find True Love and Happiness

We know many of you have been waiting patiently for our IOS APP. We are happy to announce the release of our app.

Here are a few words from our founder Gwen Washington.


It’s not as easy as in a Nicholas Spark’s movie. He drives a truck, it’s raining and two characters fall in love almost instantly.

Only in the movies does this happen. In real life, we are all searching for the magic moment and magic person that will bring us happiness. Yet it’s not as easy as the movies with all the chaos going on in the world it can be hard to believe in the most powerful emotion on earth: Love.

We are surrounded by the notion we are here temporarily, for a moment and must make the most of it.

Love can move mountains, it can stop wars, it can bring life into the world.

Yet, many of us it’s hard to imagine what life could be like if we find true love and ultimately happiness. We are constantly searching for apps, sites, events, even at work to find that one true partner. We need to stop blaming our parents, friends for not setting up us with the right guy or past relationships. We never stop to look at one person that is right in front us ourselves.

My company Luv Talk has spent the last year building our technology to improve our web platform and now our app to help women and men to find expert advice on all things love. The web platform and the app match you with a matchmaker or dating expert to help you gain the skills and knowledge to improve your relationships.

I am proud of my team of developers, designers, and interns who have all dedicated time and skills to have us create the 1st platform for experts to improve love lives of all types of people. I am constantly asked where did this idea come from. While I have stated it was a bad breakup that spawned this idea that is not the complete truth. The relationship was abusive with the guy being both emotional, verbally, and physically abusive insulting my intelligence, drive to be in tech field, and sent me into a deep depression.

Over this year I have learned 7 ways to find true love and happiness

1. You can’t change the past let go and learn from the past lessons

2. Focus on your strengths

3. Respect yourself

4. Get back to your interests

5. Write down your wants, needs, desires in a partner and in a relationship

6. Be open to meet someone new : Love comes in to your life when you least expect it.

7. Be open to give in a relationship: Love is a selfless act

While, the world is being forced to examine treatment of women due to the current sex scandals in the media we often forget how difficult it might be to come forward. I have waited to bring light to this situation after months of therapy and dedicating time, money, and my soul into this new business. In a way a company became a way to focus my energy and turn a dark pain into something beautiful to help others find true love and happiness.

Hopefully, this story can help other women come forward not just in telling a story, but to move past the pain. I’m incredibly grateful to every person I have met on this journey and those that have made it possible for me to rebuild. Since I am a woman that loves happy endings and yes even a few Nicholas sparks movies.

I did find love afterall.


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5 Sexy Halloween Date Ideas!

Halloween is a time for singles as well as those that are a couple. Grab your guy and showcase your sexy side this Halloween. It’s a great time to have a first date or becoming closer as a couple. No matter what stage your relationship is here are some great ideas that can allow you a sexy fun Halloween!


Here are 5 tips to make your Halloween sexier than ever!


  1. Go to a Halloween themed fun event- Haunted House, Theme park, being scared can actually increase endorphins. By going to a family fun Halloween event such as a haunted house can help you get closer as you pull your date close.


  1. Dress up and Send him a sexy costume photo text

Send him a few sexy tasteful costumes for his eyes only. He will appreciate being open with something just for him and you will feel his affection. He can send you his costume as well. Equal sexy text opportunity!


  1. Couple Costume Ideas

Grab your catwoman costume to and let him grab Batman there is nothing cuter or sexier than a couple dressing up together.


  1. Stay in and watch scary movies


Not planning on going on then stay in and cuddle watching old classic horror films, Friday the 13th, Dracula, Nightmare on Elm Street, and the classic Psycho. Make some treats that are inspired your film selection to complete this date night in.


  1. Pumpkin patch date


Grab your guy and go visit a farm or local pumpkin patch. This classic activity can help you slow down the stress of everyday city life and bring back good old fashion FUN!


Tech meets Love: Introducing expert Lucie Ebnerova of ‎Luvidya Inc

San Francisco the city by the ocean, by the bay, and the city of love. San Francisco is one of the most romantic cities in the country. While many of us view it as a tech hub where mega tech startups launch and take over the world. It is a city with perfect ocean views, great restaurants, and wonderful history. One of our experts is from San Francisco Lucie Ebnerova of Luvidya.

Lucie Ebnerova
‎Luvidya Inc was created by two friends who were frustrated with modern online dating and decided to make it more fun and have people connect offline and create more meaningful relationships that last. It brought the male and female point of view to the table to create a dating system that makes you feel connected in real life and disconnected from your phone. The company brings offline dating to the digital age.

We had the great pleasure to interview Lucie of Luvidya.

Question 1: What are some great ideas for a first date?

Today, I actually see the second dates more interesting because people meet online a lot and they want to get to know each other – coffee shop or ice cream shop will do the magic. If you met someone randomly at party or through friends you already had a chance to know each other, so the first date can be more creative. However, whatever you choose, make sure you feel comfortable and you two can talk 🙂

Question 2: How can we cope with heartbreak?

Allow yourself to cry and get the sadness out of your body. Focus on what is important – YOU! Find new hobbies, tell friends to take you out, exercise, start slowly enjoying life.

Question 3. What are great romantic date ideas?

Everyone has a different vision of what is romantic. But some fun ideas: long walks, picnic, dinners, horseback riding, jazz club, fireplace, paddle boarding, car drive.

Question 4. How do you handle cohabitation and splitting up household chores?

Communication!! Always communicate what you expect and what he/she is expecting. It might not be a big deal now but in few years.

Question 5. How do you deal with betrayal?

Betrayal can have many faces from low to high I’m guessing this is the question about the high, such as you can’t trust him/her anymore. You need to ask yourself what is there for me if I stay?

Question 6. What is Love?

Taking care of each other, respect each other and be very honest with yourself.

Question 7. How do you keep love alive?

You work for it! You are not afraid to give and not afraid to receive. You keep balance and enjoy every minute of it.

Valentine’s Day for Singles: Introducing Expert Nicole Xiques

As we are approaching Valentine’s Day many of us may be feeling lonely and unsettled about our love lives. February is a great month to start to LUV yourself give back to one self and make sure that you are priority in your life before you head out to find the love of your life.


We are honored to have the amazing Nicole Xiques of the unguarded heart as one of our relationship experts! We were able to sit down and interview her  in this month of Love!

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1.  What is the perfect online dating profile?


The perfect online dating profile is all about representing YOU in the most real and authentic way. Since this is the “first impression” before meeting, it is best to showcase the true essence that is you. Be sure to write a bio that describes what you like, who you are (the best way you can) and what you are truly looking for. Pick pictures of times that you felt your best and were doing things that made you feel genuinely happy. Be confident in who you are and that energy will shine through on a profile.



Question 2: What are some great ideas for a first date?


I am a fan of non-typical first dates. Sure you can go for drinks, coffee or dinner. However, how about doing something like mini-golf, bowling, meeting for a free concert. Do something that while you can get to know each other, it’s an opportunity to enjoy yourself and not have it be such an interview.


Question 3: Can women ask men out? Why or Why not?


I am a believer that women can most definitely ask a man out. Sometimes there are situations where men don’t know if a woman is interested and her making a move and asking them out will give him the sign that she wants to get to know more about him. I think at that point if he accepts and there is interest from both sides, he can take the lead. Woman should be able to stand in their confidence and make their interest known, allowing the man to then show his interest in return.


Question 4: How can you spot a player?


As a woman we have an amazing intuition, yet we always feel the need to give men the benefit of the doubt. If something feels off it usually means it is. I think it can go both way. Sometimes a player can be a smooth talker, telling you exactly what you want to hear when you hear but something inside tells you it doesn’t seem genuine. There are also those I don’t know where I stand guys. They show you some interest and then don’t call you for a few days. They might not necessarily be a player, but they sure aren’t interested in getting to really know you. At the end of the day, your instincts can tell if something doesn’t add up and you really need to start listening to it.


Question 5: How can we cope with heartbreak?


Heartbreak is a real thing. Emotions can affect what happens to your body and why heart break can physically feel excruciating. We must truly go through the stages of grief to get past our heartbreak and that means we must FEEL it. Not cover it up, but allow ourselves to process. Many times we re-create the heartbreak by stalking on social media, using coping mechanisms that are unhealthy such as getting drunk, sleeping with other people or moving on right away. Truth is, we need to FEEL our anger, feel our sadness and choose to shift our perspective and see the situation in a different light to gain acceptance. Surround yourself with people who will allow you to be in feeling, empathize and then call you out when you have stayed stuck in it for too long. Begin to do things that will allow you to see your worth, your beauty and true essence so that you can love yourself through the heartbreak.


Question 6. What are great romantic date ideas?

Oh this is fun 🙂 Some ideas…..Have a picnic on your living room floor (or any other room you’d like). Create a scavenger hunt for you and your partner to do together in your town. Put some date ideas of your own in a jar and pick it out. Go restaurant hopping where you pick a place for a drink and appetizer and don’t tell your partner and he does the same for your next spot. Watch the sunset somewhere with a nice bottle of wine and a speaker with music playing.

Question 7. How do you handle cohabitation and splitting up household chores?

I think anything that has to do with cohabitation, living together and doing chores requires COMMUNICATION! Sit down and have a conversation about what things are needed from each other. Discuss what each of you feels is good to split, what person will handle the laundry, cleaning, picking up, etc. It’s so important to talk about it and come up with a plan you both are comfortable with. It also allows you to get clear and detailed about how you want the household to work.

Question 8. How do you deal with betrayal?

Betrayal is going to happen in relationships. From the little white lie to a huge deal breaker. I think it is important to get clear on what types of betrayal you are willing to work on. For example, if your partner cheats on you, you can decide if that is something you would want to try and get past or not. In those types of situations, my recommendation would definitely be to seek professional help. When it comes to little white lies I believe you need to be able to see if this was a one time thing or a continuous habit. Address it head on, talk to your partner with an open and loving heart to express how the betrayal has hurt you. How your partner reacts will determine your next steps.

Question 9. What is Love?

Love is unconditional. It doesn’t keep score, it doesn’t blame, it sees the flaws of the other and chooses to love them anyway. It is open, it is vulnerable, it is willing to learn and grow and flourish.

Question 10. How do you keep love alive?


You keep love alive by letting go of being right in order to stay connected to the other person. So many times we choose, unconsciously, to let our ego lead the way of our relationships. Love is pure, it is kind and doesn’t keep a guard up. Keeping the love going takes a conscious effort to making time for the other person, to forgive when they have hurt you and to put their needs before your own. If you have date nights, do something THEY want to do. If they need love and support, give it to them. When you both are coming from this heart space, love can’t die.




I Texted My Ex, Ugh! by Expert : Ilene Kastel, M.A., LCPC

We know that day, the day we break and “accidentally” text our ex because we’re feeling lonely or sad. We don’t think it through; we just want to be in touch. There’s a void we’re trying to fill. And then we wait… and wait… the anxiety increases and we consistently check our phones because we swear it buzzed. Then the sinking feeling comes and we’re sad and angry as we “know” we shouldn’t have texted. In enters feelings of being rejected. We start to wonder, “Maybe they didn’t get it?”, “Are they with someone else?”, and “Did they ever really care?”


Okay, so we committed the cardinal sin of “texting the ex”, now what? The key is to create a plan for the next time. Fact: Often times the urge to be in touch with your ex doesn’t stem from missing them but comes from other contributing factors. First, consider what was going on internally and emotionally in the moments or hours before you texted.

  • What triggered the “need” to text your ex?
  • Were you feeling lonely, bored, uncared about, left out, or nervous about your future?
  • Maybe something went wrong at work or we have no plans that evening.

Here is a list of possibilities contributing or causing “missing” feelings. Instead of missing our ex, could we possibly be missing:  

  1. physical touch
  2. having someone one with shared values, hobbies or ideas
  3. the idea of being a couple or having a partner; the dislike of being alone
  4. feeling different from friends/peers
  5. identity as a couple aka the “we” the “us”
  6. your old routine
  7. someone needing you
  8. fear of the future and the unknown
  9. feeling behind in life or not where you “expected” to be
  10. or that indescribable/special connection

These categories are extremely important to identify for coping and relapse prevention.  The great news, if it’s numbers 1 through 9 we’re in luck!  These have less to do directly with our ex and more to do with a need we’re yearning for or fearing.  If we had someone else there to fill this void, it probably would not feel so bad.  So, fill this void in healthy ways other than texting the ex. Find ways to supplement the things we are missing.  It may not be a perfect substitution but it will decrease our pain and increase our coping.  If we’re missing physical touch, get a massage or hug a friend. This releases Oxytocin and reduces stress.  Spend time with someone that shares similar values or hobbies, join a new club or group, remind ourselves that everyone faces being alone at some point. If at the end of your day you used to talk to your ex, for example, pick a friend to fill that void for the time being.  Again, it’s not a perfect substitute but it does help.

Now, if we are feeling #10 – missing that indescribable special connection, unfortunately, this is part of the loss that we need to keep grieving.  There is no rule of thumb for how long this will take. Be extremely careful about turning to the ex to make this part feel better because that relationship and connection has evolved and they can’t offer us what they once could.  So grieve and cry for as long as you need to.  Crying has many physiological benefits for your body and releases stress hormones.

We all have vulnerable, open and hard moments. Learning what you’re missing, other than the ex can keep you in control and invite self-refection and healthy coping.


Poor Dating History? How to Date Smarter & Pick Better By: Ilene Kastel, M.A., LCPC

“I’m looking for another unsuccessful relationship”, said no one ever. We all plan on finding a healthier more successful relationship the next time around.  No one purposely tries to repeat the same mistakes. So how do we know as we’re falling in “like” with someone that we are picking better and wiser?

Think of the courting process as a condensed sample of what the longer term relationship will look like. It’s important to examine if our needs are getting met early on in the relationship. If, after clearly and nicely communicating your needs, allowing a window for adjustment/work, your partner isn’t able to meet your needs it is crucial to avoid hoping, expecting, or seeing the “potential” in our partner as we wish for them to change.

Rule number 1: Only date the person for who they are and as they are as they are at this exact moment. There is great risk when we date someone for their potential as opposed to who they are at this current time because they may never reach their “potential”. While communication plays a large role, if your potential partner cannot adjust after a conversation or two then it may be time to move on.

Rule number 2: The secret is: Consistency and Reliability. These are the two most important factors when getting to know someone as well as throughout the relationship. How do I know if someone is reliable or consistent? Early on we have to access small pieces of information.  Do they call when they say they will call? Do they actually schedule dates and follow through on them?  Do they show up to scheduled outings when they say they will or notify you in a timely manner if they’re running late? Are they attentive when you’re stressed or anxious? Do they take interest in what you converse about? These beginning and small moments are indicators about whether you partner is reliable, consistent and perhaps trustworthy.

Naturally, there are other factors that play into whether we are “picking right” or dating smarter. But, these foundational rules are a solid and dependable place to start. If you’re wanting to learn more about yourself and how to date smarter beyond these rules, speaking with a counselor may be a worthwhile avenue for self-exploration.

Surviving the Holiday Loneliness by expert Molly Hillig Rodriguez

Molly Hillig
“Where you go to create RADIANT relationships. Your love life, your choice.”

What do you notice about yourself during the Holiday season?


Do you ever feel alone?


This time of year our feelings are amplified and on high alert. It can be easy to notice what we do not have in place of what we do have. Is there an absence in your life?


When it comes to the world of love, a sense of aloneness can be chilling. The media, social media, and Christmas cards represent that humans are collectively more joyful and loved this time of year. For you is this true or is this a false representation of what folks are really feeling? There is also a reality for many of us that we have not found our special someone or our relationship is not functioning at its best.


If you are feeling a sense of aloneness (in a relationship or singlehood) here are some tips to enrich your holiday experience.



  1. Try a new activity that involves new people. It is easy to come home from work and sit on the couch or our smart phones. Think of one activity you would like to try and sign yourself up. Maybe it is a Swing dance class, a crafting class or Christmas caroling! Whatever your heart desires to try let it be something new. It will provide the opportunity for you to meet new people and learn something, this is a powerful combination of joy. Yes, it can be uncomfortable doing something different, but the human soul desires novelty.
  2. Write a letter of forgiveness. You do not need to send it BUT writing about forgiveness creates a space of love in your soul. Every human is imperfect including yourself so forgive. Harboring feelings of resentment will bring you suffering and aloneness. Expressing your feelings and forgiving will bring you freedom.
  3. Perform a random act of kindness. Hearts will glow around you when you perform a random act of kindness. Buy a random stranger coffee in line, say Hello to a homeless person or give a cashier a complement. People are hungry for kindness in the world and the more you give it the more you will receive it!
  4. Know that you are never truly alone. Each one of us is loved for the simple fact that we are human. You were put on this earth because you have a gift that no other person in the world has. Discover your gift and share it with the world this Holiday season! Your life will change when you share your gift.


Try these four exercises in the world and see what happens in your life. Let me know how it goes. If you know of someone feeling alone forward this article to them it may change their season.



Speaking from the heart,



Molly Hillig Rodriguez


Surviving Holiday Breakups by Expert Divorce Attorney Brian Thompson

Divorce and Finance – Brian Thompson
“I’m on your side!”

The holiday season can be a difficult time for those in relationships that are teetering on the edge and especially difficult for those whose relationship ends just prior to the holidays.  What can you do to get over the sadness, depression or other feelings that frequently go along with the end of a relationship?


  1. Spend time with friends and family – The end of a relationship is simply a reflection of how you feel about and interact with that partner. It does not have to be taken as a reflection of your personal worth.  No matter what went down between you and your partner, chances are your friends and family (even the prying ones) still love you.  Remember that and enjoy some time with friends and family.


  1. Attend holiday parties – Continue to enjoy your favorite holiday traditions and parties. If you like to dress up, drink and/or dance at holiday parties, go ahead and do so.  Who knows?  You may just meet your next boyfriend or girlfriend at the bar, on the dance floor or under the mistletoe.  Just don’t throw yourself into a rebound relationship before you have processed your feelings from the prior relationship.


  1. Avoid your ex-partner – Try to avoid places where you might encounter your ex, such as parties thrown by mutual friends.  Delete him or her from your phone to avoid the temptation to drunk dial your ex.  Also, lay low on social media – don’t post photos of yourself with some new person you met just to piss off your ex.  This kind of passive-aggressive behavior is childish and just keeps your mind occupied with the ex-partner.  Consider “unfriending” or “unfollowing” your ex on social media so that you don’t see pictures of him or her that cause you to dwell on the relationship.


  1. Volunteer and/or donate – Volunteering to help others can take your focus off your problems, both real and perceived, and help create connection to your fellow man and community in which you live. Consider volunteering to serve meals to the needy in a soup kitchen, deliver meals to the elderly, or spend time with the elderly in a retirement community.  Consider donating to a toy drive the money you would have spent on your partner’s gift . . . he won’t miss the socks or tie you would have given him, but the child who receives your toy will be thankful.


Whatever approach or approaches you take to survive a holiday break, be thankful that a new year and new beginning is right around the corner.

When Does Finances Come to Play in Romance? By Expert Deitra Laniece

Deitra Laniece has been mentoring millennials  to have finical freedom with her company Money Noggin. Here are tips on talking money with your romantic partner.


He’s your dream guy. Tall, Dark, and Fine.

You had a few amazing dates where he showered you with flowers, was a complete gentleman, but something is off.

Not sure what it is but you blow it off anyway.

After a few months dating you realize what’s been nagging you. You noticed some red flags.

He’s hung up on phone calls from what sounds like bill collectors and now he just wants stay in and watch TV every weekend.

You can see a future with him but can he even afford to buy a ring, if it comes to that point?

Finance is the last conversation that happens when you are madly in love, but it’s one of the biggest causes for divorce.

So let’s take a little close look at when to introduce the finance conversation into the relationship.

Before Talking Look for Signs of Financial Troubles

When you first start dating, you are just feeling out if he’s a match and maybe if he makes you smile a lot.

In this time frame, just notice how he acts when it comes to money.

Does he flash his money everywhere? Does he make negative side remarks when it comes to the restaurant tab? Maybe you notice he uses his credit card quite a bit.

All of these might be signs for you, but continue to enjoy your time and just keep them in mind if the relationship gets serious later on.

Don’t fret yet, just enjoy the attention and the conversation, but take note.

Gradually Bring Up Future Financial Goals

After a few dates, you start getting to know each other more.

Mention your future financial goals, like eventually owning your own home, paying for college in cash, or saving for a dream vacation.

When you mention these, see how he reacts. Does he seem scared or intimidated? Does he get excited with you?

These will help you get a good idea if he values the same things financially as you do.

Which is super important if you can see a future with him.

Now, do not talk about your dream of having a $20k wedding right off the bat.

That will scare a majority of guys even if they are financially secure.

Bring up wedding goals later on in the relationship, when you’re talking about more serious stuff like engagement.

After Getting Serious, Then Get Serious about Where Each of You Stand Financially

By this time, you’ve talked about moving in together or possibly getting engaged.

This is prime time to get into the nitty gritty of finances.

When you are getting as serious as living together or marriage, it’s time to understand exactly where each other stands.

Because whatever debt is brought into this relationship now, will affect you if you decide to purchase large ticket items together in the future, like a house, car, or renting an apartment.

Keep your debts prior to the marriage separate and keep focused on paying those debts off before getting any new debt together.

If your engaged, this is time frame you can sit down go over your finances and plan a wedding budget that will reflect both of your financial goals.

If one person is struggling financially, consider a financial coach to help you build a plan that will get you both on board towards building a financially secure future together.

Just like if your morals and ethics don’t match, your relationship will not work, so will your financial values.

If you value nice things, but your future spouse is super thrifty, you will for sure hit some major road blocks in your relationship.

These issues need to be ironed out with a financial coach before the relationship gets further along.

So bring up the financial conversation little by little. By the time you get serious, the money talk will be much easier to handle.

And if he’s not a financial match, at least you saved yourself from some potential future money headaches.